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The Paradox of Growth

Sometimes, We Need to Let Go to Move Forward

During Covid I got to experience a new self that spent a lot of time alone, which helped me to grow in many ways, it also gave me a lot of time to reflect and write. Writing my blog each week gave me a space to feel my true self behind a screen of words, and for a person who always was afraid to write, afraid of not being good enough, I found joy in the very thing I was afraid of. Following on from this I felt the courage I had needed to take the leap and pursue my MSc in Pluralistic Counselling and Psychotherapy. The last 3 years have been filled with many different learning experiences, some good, some heart wrenching and some ‘what else can you throw at me life’ moments, all of which have brought me back here to writing again.

No one goes through life events unchanged, so, growth is where my writing starts again……

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Sometimes, We Need to Let Go to Move Forward

During Covid I got to experience a new self that spent a lot of time alone, which helped me to grow in many ways, it also gave me a lot of time to reflect and write. Writing my blog each week gave me a space to feel my true self behind a screen of words, and for a person who always was afraid to write, afraid of not being good enough, I found joy in the very thing I was afraid of. Following on from this I felt the courage I had needed to take the leap and pursue my MSc in Pluralistic Counselling and Psychotherapy. The last 3 years have been filled with many different learning experiences, some good, some heart wrenching and some ‘what else can you throw at me life’ moments, all of which have brought me back here to writing again.

No one goes through life events unchanged, so, growth is where my writing starts again……

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To Vaccinate or not!? – My journey

We’ve reached a point where this time last year we had no idea this is where we would be, in any shape or form. COVID-19 has changed us all in one way or another and it has changed our thinking and understanding in many different ways. I think the most discussed topic now is whether to vaccinate or not and then what vaccination to get. This made me decide to write about what I know and my experience so far.

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Are value courses the way to go?

Over the summer, after I had finished my Certificate in Professional Coaching and a Certificate in Career Coaching, I had the urge, time, and want to continue growing my knowledge. I am not very good at having to read for long periods of time, especially from a computer, but online was the only real option and I had already forked out a lot of money for my other courses. I did not want to spend any more money for the moment anyway.

Years ago, I would get courses in different places like Groupon and other platforms like this. I had looked through them and nothing really interested me at that point anyway, so I decided to look further afield. I had heard about Teachable and Udemy; I am sure there is a lot more, but I am going to base my findings on the ones I have mentioned. Also, to point out, I am not affiliated with these sites and do not receive money from them if you do any of their courses unless it is a course directly linked to me.

You can get certificates from these courses, but they are not certificates from a registered university. For example, if you did one of these online courses on Psychotherapy and received a certificate, you cannot register and practice as a psychotherapist. It will give you the knowledge and an understanding of psychotherapy but not the accredited certification that you would need to be a licensed professional. That being said, it may add to your continued personal development for work and add some new tools to your box.

This is where I feel these kind of courses are really useful and beneficial. Nowadays, more and more people are deciding to change their careers at some point and opting for something very different from what they had originally qualified in. Returning to university can be extremely costly and taxing on your health and well-being, whether you decide to go back full time or part-time, continue to work or give up work completely. It is not easy to return to university or studying. For this reason, you need to be sure that it is the right thing for you. By taking some short and inexpensive, sometimes even free, courses you get to have a better idea of what types of topics you may learn and if it is the right course for you.

If it has been any length of time since you have been studying or partaking in any form of learning, online courses can be a way to help you get back into learning. It may even help to find your new way of learning, as for many reasons you will not be in the same position or circumstances and so will not study and learn the same way.

Some other reasons why doing a short online course can be useful are:

  • You will get a range of different types of courses. So, if you want to learn a new craft or want a better understanding of how to do an Excel sheet, amongst many other things, these types of courses are really beneficial.
  • The courses are readily available. Once you purchase them, you have unlimited access to them whenever you can fit it in.
  • There are different levels that you can learn from. So, if you are brand new to an area of learning, you can start with beginner and work your way up.
  • Udemy also offers a money-back guarantee if you are not happy with the course and no sign-up fee
  • Some say the quality of courses is better on sites where you pay to sign up fees, but it all depends on what you want to get out of such courses
  • Most courses do not require much or any prior learning and will state what you need to know before taking the course and what you will gain from it.
  • Courses are broken down into sections so you can do them at your own pace.
  • They are relatively short and should not take forever to finish them.
  • You can connect with the tutor and ask them questions you may be unsure of.
  • If it is a paid course, you get a certificate of completion.
  • Doing such courses can give you an added edge if and when you do apply to a university or even a job, showing that you like to upskill and want to continue to learn and grow.

Of course, there are negatives also, they only give a general idea of your topic of choice, sometimes too many courses to choose from can be more overwhelming than anything else amongst other things. But, if you are not doing all the normal things that you used to do, and have more time on your hands, what is stopping you. My thoughts are that yes value courses are the way to go and now is the perfect time to try something new, you may be surprised about what you can gain and anything gained is always positive to me. I wish you the best of luck if you do take on a value course, I do not think you will regret it.

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Being Aunt!

To celebrate World Aunt Day on the 26th July, which I just found out is a thing, I am going to take a new direction with my post today. I get told a lot what a great mother I would be, as I am such a good aunt to my nieces and nephews. But being an aunt and being a mother are two very different things. Yes, there are some similarities but at the end of the day, an aunt is only a part-time/when it suits them kind of parent.

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Is physical contact still important even in a pandemic?

I have done a lot of thinking about this one for some time and knew it was something I wanted to delve into more, especially in the current climate. It took me some thinking and time to set my mind on what part of contact with others to even look at.

We have five senses; Sight (visual), Sound (audio), Touch, Smell and Taste (last 3 comprising of you kinesthetic senses). The first of our senses to develop even before we are born is the one of touch. It has come down the line from our primate relatives and it was a distinct part for their development and their grooming process. As a baby, we need and crave the emotional stimulations from physical touch, especially that of our mothers. We learn from a young age how touch can relieve stress and offer comfort and safety. Studies have shown how the impact of these interactions, or lack of, when a baby is young can affect a person’s physical and mental well-being when they are older. Something to think about, right?

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Sure, we are all in this together!

In the midst of COVID-19, we are seeing everywhere that we are in this together and yes we are all in this world epidemic together, living every aspect of it, together. But really we are, each, living it, very, very differently. When I decided I wanted to write a post about the new norms of social distancing and isolation that we are experiencing at the moment, I had thought about writing about the different groups in isolation, single, with a partner, as a family, elderly, and single parents. The more I looked into different articles about this topic, I realised that there is so many more, and I am probably only taking in some of them.

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Positive in failure!

Collins dictionary describes failure as “a lack of success in doing or achieving something”. Two questions you can ask yourself, are we meant to always achieve what we want? And why is failure a bad thing anyway?

If we always achieve what we want, how do we know if we actually deserve it and if it is what we want? When we talk about failure, we talk about the lack of success. But every situation has different angles to look at it. For example J.K. Rowling, widely known as the author of Harry Potter, one of the best selling authors of today, had her first book rejected by 12 different publishing companies. At the time, she was living on benefits and did not give up at the first hurdle of failure. She is now a millionaire. So, although the first 12 times she didn’t achieve what she wanted, she kept going. She believed that her time was coming and that sometimes you need to fail to succeed. One of the main skills I believe she displayed during this time was resilience.

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